Throwing everything on the table.

I recently knew a couple that broke up and i was friends with both of them. So one friend asked me for help and advice, all I thought of was helping her take back control. What I wanted to do is make that person stronger and more independent to be ready to get back at the other person, basically by playing games.

However, this friend didn't listen to my advice although i was pretty convinced that my way would work. She dealt with the problem by being sad and in pain and eventually she worked up the courage to go out and get what she wanted without any games. She threw everything she had on the table by being honest. In the end it all worked out and they got back together.

You probably guessed what I want to say, sometimes you have it in your head to play games to get what you want. With games you can act wisely and think about every angle thereby protecting yourself. However, sometimes it's simpler to throw everything you have on the table and be completely honest and open.